CONFESSIONS OF A SWINGER COUPLE

Rules are made to be broken: Adriana and John are the evidence of it because this unconventional couple enjoy the swinger lifestyle long time ago. They are a lovely solid couple, despite all their perversions, with their own rules and always searching for new ways to get fun. Some see it as weird, only for depraved people; for they it’s a lifestyle full of pleasure and satisfaction, but also lot of complicity, respect and mutual devotion.

– First of all, I’d like to know your ages, marital status and how long have you been together as a couple.

Adriana: I am 38, he’s 40, we’re married and we have been together for 20 years.

– At which point you decided to start having swinging experiences? Who asked who to start this?

John: We still have discussions about it. We were very young, at the beginning of the relationship. Until the first year togheter, we already tested lot of sex games, we used to fuck and fuck all day long. Every time it was posible, of course. About who asked who, we still can’t agree. Adriana says it was me, but I think it was her. The point is that we were very willing to try it.

– How you felt on your first swinger experience?

Adriana: First experience was in a swinger party at 19 or 20 years old, when we were very young. We knew about this party thanks to a magazine, even before the advent of the Internet. The party was full of mature couples, much older than us, we saw them like old folks and probably they had the same age that we have now, hahaha.  I was really nervous, to see all that dirty old men hanging around me. Finally we met a nice couple, not much older than us, and the experience was great, considering that was our first time. 

– What kind of couples do you prefer for your partner swapping experiences?

John: Of course first we look their appearance, we like beautiful couples, good-looking people who take good care of theirselves. We prefer couples of our own age, with similar physical features, same style… the typical middle-aged stable couple, you know what I mean? With people like us is easier and funny and, in addition to great sex sessions, become good friends too.

– Do you remember any unpleasant swinger experience?

Adriana: Yes, throughout the years of course we’ve had very bad experiences. Sometimes because of our bad moments -like any couple-, sometimes because of a bad place, or also when someone ruin the moment with bad attitudes. But none of this has been serious enough to consider leave swinger world.

– If there’s a good experience with another couple, do you usually meet them again?

Adriana: Not only that, we become great friends, a nice relationship beyond sex with lot of trust and affinity. Actually, they become  part of our home environment; visiting their homes, meeting their families, organizing holidays together…

– There’re any specific rules between you in the swinger relationships?

John: We play always together, never separately. Also when Adriana or me decide “stop the game”, we stop. We never are forced to do anything and that gives us peace of mind. We are all the time very aware from each other.

– How do you deal with jealousy?

John: It’s a very complex issue, but we know how to differentiate love from sex; a clear distinction should be made between our special exclusive relationship from sex sessions with other peoples, even among good friends. There are no fears or distrust, the confidence is complete and absolute. Even when we’re playing with other couples, we’re keeping a visual contact, talking and signal each other to reaffirm our exclusive bond of affection.

– Your family or friends know about your sexual lifestyle?

Adriana: Actually we’ve decided to “come out of the closet” with our closest friends many years ago and it wasn’t really socking for them. We always have been very open-mind and that thing’s never brought us any trouble among our lifelong friends. But not with the family, this still being our greatest secret, but this is part of the game, living a double life.

– Have you ever met celebrities in the swingers’ world? I mean, something like politicians, singers or actors… How do they deal with privacy?

Adriana: Yes, of course. A few, but we found them.

John: In the main all swinger couples are very discreet, doesn’t matter if you’re famous or not. We are a very discreet community and almost everybody is respectful with the privacy rules.

– What are your favorite swapping partners’ club of the city?

John: It’s about the people, not the places. We prefer friends’ home parties, but when we go out, we love the club Oasis, and sometimes Pendulum. We have great friends there and this is why we love those places.

– Do you interact only with straight couples?

John: We do like to go the extra mile, I think it’s called bi-friendly, hahaha.

– What does that mean?

John: We like some degree of bisexuality in the encounters, but I wouldn’t call it homosexuality, it’s just about touch, play and learn…

– Finally, what advice would you give to couples who are interested in the swinger world?

Adriana: I’d say they shouldn’t be afraid of it, get carried away, put aside distrust or jealousy and, above all, enjoy every moment. Swingers’ world is not a therapy for troubled couples, it’s a different lifestyle, as good as traditional couples lifestyle, if not more so.

Between laughter and jokes we said goodbye. Today I had the pleasure to meet a real swinger couple, and it has become very clear to me that they have a very serious and solid relationship. I’d even go so far as to say that they have more trust than other “traditional” couples.

What do you think about it? Do you have a traditional or a kinky relationship?

Greetings

The Kinky Mind

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